The next time you wake up in the middle of the night, emerging from a nightmare and a cold sweat worrying about your utopian life and dreams of the perfect existence in the future, don’t be surprised. Many of us are so worried about finding a perfect marriage with kids, a nice house and a white picket fence that we put ourselves under too much pressure. It’s no wonder that we come across these nightmares from time to time, as you wonder what will happen if the guy is not interested in you.

From an early stage in our lives, our parents would often tell us fairytales and they inevitably had a happy ending. Unfortunately, life is not quite as rosy as all of this and is full of its ups and downs. We can’t expect everything to go smoothly and this is especially true in the dating environment. Don’t try and rush the situation though and worry whether a guy is interested in you before you even get to know him!

It would be nice if we didn’t have to put too much emotional energy into a relationship without knowing whether the guy is interested in you. Girls often ask us this question and we could call it a multimillion dollar answer. All you need to remember is that you should enjoy the journey and not be too keen to get to the destination, regardless of the fact that stability is at the top of your mind.

We often hear girls asking us when its the right time to bail out on a potential relationship, as they do not want to waste any more time if the guy is not interested in you. In the early stages of a relationship, you might feel as if you were waiting by the phone for it to ring. If he hasn’t called you back within a day or so, take the initiative. If you get through to him all well and good. If he doesn’t return your message in a timely manner, move on!

Don’t feel downhearted if the dream guy, currently in your radar, does not call you back. It is likely that this guy is not interested in you and while we all have our feelings and tend to be hurt rather easily, you have to realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea and that not everybody is guaranteed to like everybody else. It would be nice to think that we would all behave in a certain way and would be able to impart our feelings without them being hurt on either side, but this is not always the case.

You can see subtle signs very often to tell you whether your love interest is really interested in you. By reading between the lines, assess the level of interest and his interaction with other women. Don’t make it obvious that you are checking up, just see if his actions are appropriate.

Never set up a relationship on the basis of sex alone and be especially wary if it appears that he appears to feel this way. Warning bells should go off if he is always calling you at the time that the bars seem to close, or if all his active interest seems to be in one direction.

In life, we make of it what we put in and you owe it to yourself to go the extra distance. This means that you are likely to encounter many ups and downs and many a failed relationship, but the law of averages will dictate that you find the man of your dreams at a certain point and settle down for that happy existence.

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