Many a man has has spotted an attractive girl and thought to himself, “Wow, she’s got more legs than a bucket full of chicken.”

Next, he went up to talk to her and within the first thirty seconds of conversation the poor bastard went belly up as she hammered him to jelly.

With his self-esteem fried to cinders, he limped away.

You can probably relate. I know I can. I’ve been there about a billion times. Heck! – I used to be so scared to approach an attractive woman that I’d imagine her steamrolling me, leaving me for road kill in her wake. How cool is that – I’d disqualify myself without even talking to her.

Meeting and approaching women is no easy business for those who haven’t mastered the necessary skills. Let’s take a look at why this is so.

Most of the time, guys pick up girls for their beauty alone – and girls know this, my friend.

Half the time, even if you find them as sexy as a hemorrhoid , they’ll still think you’re trying to pick up on them.

But this, my friend, is about to change…

Watching most men approach an attractive woman is as depressing as a costume ball for demented children. The woman is like a pro fisherman with top notch bait and the guy is like a poor little fish, soon to be chopped up, fried, and eaten for dinner.

Even if he’s a fighter, it’s too late – he’s already on the hook (albeit, if he happens to be her physical type, he’s got a shot at success).

Like other men, I’m also a fish – but a Parana jacked up on steroids. The moment they think they’ve hooked me in, I cast my pole and tempt them with irresistible bait.

They clamp their chompers down on the bait and my hook slides in – they’re trapped.

Here’s an example. When at a nightclub or bar, my eyes rove around looking for a high foot traffic area – near the ladies room or entrance to the smoking patio, for example. When a girl struts past me I’ll bump her with my elbow.

And then in an overdramatic and offended tone I’ll utter: “Ow…you hurt me.”

A bit flustered, the lovely lady will put her hand on my shoulder and gush, “I’m so sorry.”

I’ll quip back with, “Before you can touch me, you need to tell me an interesting story or a funny joke.

This emotionally hooks the woman into an interaction with you.

Once most guys find a woman attractive – usually within the first few seconds of meeting her – they start thinking of ways to get her approval, win her over, and prove themselves to her.

Put simply, she has them emotionally hooked and she knows it. Just about anything they do to impress her, is a sign she is reeling them in even closer.

With my example above, however, I’m doing the opposite. Instead of me proving myself to her, I’m making her prove herself to me. I’m the sought after Prize, not her.

In all sexual interactions, only one person can be the Prize. Two people can’t chase each other at the same time.

You need to put yourself in the role of the Prize and the woman in role of the suitor working to win you over.

Josh Lubens, a world renowned relationship coach, writes under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has coached men how to pick up women for over a decade. At his website, you can get free pick up lines that actually work.