You do not want to just cope with anger. That is a bad idea. You want to release it.

When you cope with anger, you have not gotten it completely out of your system. Maybe you frequently think about the things that make you angry and still do not act out, but you can still do better than that. A problem still exists because you are still letting the anger be a part of you.

The only time that you should think about the things that make you angry is when you have already forgiven the people involved. When you have forgiven everyone, you will think good thoughts about them and these thoughts will not hurt you at all.